Yes, so the title sounds familar to you and it should. I have deliberately taken it right out of ‘Jerry Maguire’. However, what I have taken is his words or his thoughts. In my last year at Nait, in Leadership class, one of our assignments was to write a paper; a philosophy paper. The quick definition of a philosophy paper is that it consists of the reasoned defense of some claim. It must offer an argument and it can’t consist mainly of your opinion and or the philosophers opinions. You must defend the claim and give reasons to believe them. After learning this, I am not even sure that the paper I actually wrote can be called a ‘Philosopy Paper’. I will let you be the judge.
Leaders are those people you inspire and breathe life into your dreams. They make things happen, they are risk takers, and the kind of people that say I’m ready to the Universe. Leaders don’t wait for opportunities to happen they make them happen. They wake up each morning with an energy that drives them because they are doing what they love. Lisa Nichols and Anthony Robbins are among the many that do just this. It is these very people that continue to inspire me and others on a daily basis. Lisa Nichols is a powerful advocate of personal empowerment. She is experienced in motivating others to bring about profound changes in their lives. She uses her life experiences to empower and motivate others towards change. She is also the co-author of Chicken Soup for the African American Soul. I have personally heard this woman speak and her stories left me believing that I too can do anything. She informs us that the universe just needs us to say I’m ready and it will gladly give us what we desire. Anthony Robbins has always been a favorite of mine. He too, has a personal story that creates and generates a following. His vision is to bring out the best in people. He is the ultimate life coach because of his compassion and understanding for all human beings. Anthony Robbins is described as a peace negotiator & humanitarian, a strategic advisor to world leaders, a successful entrepreneur & honored business strategist, a philanthropist, an award-winning speaker, an internationally best-selling author, a mass media veteran, an authority on peak performance, an innovator in psychology and intervention, and a family man. His books and videos have led me on a path to discover more about what is my vision about what kind of leader I want to be.
The type of leader I aspire to be is one that inspires and empowers others to believe they can. This kind of leadership is Servant leadership; where a leader serves first his people. The role is to recognize that he is not merely to lead, but to serve by creating a better society through service. Servant leaders are selfless and are born with a knowing that they were brought here to make a difference. I will be the kind of leader that cares about and is devoted to the welfare of others; altruism. I will take the virtue approach so that I can continually grow and search for a better way for all of humanity. I would like to believe that whatever I can imagine I can create. This approach will allow me to look at the world and its people with positive feelings and take any criticism well. It will push me to always strive to reach my full potential. This is what I want for others so I must also want this for myself. I want to understand the passions and pleasures of the masses. I want to be able to adapt to a leadership style according to the situation; this is Flexible leadership. A great leader has a constant thriving for knowledge and has the ability to never lose sight of the unexpected. A great leader has many characteristics such as: courage, foresight, is highly imaginative, ingenuity, faith, great dramatic power, learns from adversity, open to feedback, is resourceful, and serves well as models and mentors. All of these I hope I have or will have in the future.
I want to be the kind of leader who leads with compassion with the belief that everyone deserves greatness. I would like to end ignorance among people and help others who might be struggling with themselves. I have strong relational skills that will help me in building relationships, collaborate and effectively lead change. True leaders are built upon a person’s ability to understand and manage oneself effectively and relate well with others. I would like to have a place where people could go to where they felt safe and accepted as they are. Leaders help others to consider alternate ways of thinking, acting, and encouraging them. My goal is to give them a quotient of hope; to make sure that everyone has access to achieving their personal fitness goals in the most comfortable and enjoyable environment possible. To create an environment that motivates others to go beyond what they ever imagined possible. One of the ways I would do this is through humor and by developing an open atmosphere. I want to be the kind of leader that has a bounce in their step and a can-do attitude that makes everyone around then feel alive, a leader that has the ability to make others feel secure; even if things did go wrong we would not worry because their optimism regarding life. A leader that will convey to everyone that they have the power within themselves to accomplish anything, a leader that with my expression of warmth and friendship people will come, and finally a leader that is sincere and genuine with the ability to move others. People always say that if you find something you’re good at and you have a passion for it, you can’t be afraid of it; that you have to go for it. It was easy for me to talk to people and want to be there to help them in anyway I could. It left me with a good feeling that you couldn’t buy at a store.
I wish to one day be looked at as a great role model. I want to help break people’s myths that they may have about themselves. Or even break the ones that people might have said to them by filling their head with fear. And when people are afraid they don’t do things. I want to be the person that gives them the opportunity to welcome them to the start of their new beginning and let them know that it’s never too late. We all learn one day that you have to take the risks in order to receive the rewards. I once believed that there were limits to what I could achieve, but the reality is that my limits are nowhere near where I originally thought they were. As human beings we all think that we can do only so much but as a leader we need to we need to understand that we do succeed in more than we think we can. A leader must never stop. Shakeema Walker who is known for her long jumps believes in D-O-N-E. Determination, One goal, Never stop, Excellence. She says that she just thought of it one day in college. She says that when she breaks the world record, then she’ll be done. And that will put the period on done. They must continually redefine their limits. I am my only limitation.
A leader must also be able to understand themselves better and others. This can teach us our strengths and weaknesses and lead us to a great self-awareness; to push us to want to improve. When we learn to accept somebody, we learn to get along with them instead of just tolerating them. To be leader we cannot always pick and choose who we have on our team. If I can change one person’s mind about how they think about themselves or about somebody else, then I have done my part. I cannot command commitment but only inspire it. But before you can inspire others, you must first be inspired. Knowing my vision and being able to express it through creative visualization is important if I want to enlist the support of others. I must be able to communicate in a way that breathes life into my vision with the hope that others will want to join me on my journey. My vision is to inspire and motivate others to tap into a greater self awareness through the using exercise as the catalyst; with the hope that it will leak into other areas of their life as well. I want them to walk away feeling that I have giving their lives meaning and to look at the world a different way from that point on. This is a cause I am willing to commit to. I have already set a date to write down my long-term goals, short-term goals, daily goals, monthly goals, personal goals, organizational goals, ten-year goals, and lifetime goals. This will give me the power to manifest my ideas into realities. Goal setting makes us accountable and is extremely important as a leader. If a leader does not know where he is going than he cannot expect people to follow.
My motivation comes from personal life experiences that left me feeling humiliated, worthless, frustrated, and than the realization finally that none of this was true. This educated and empowered me to stand up for myself and create my own reality. I think this experience will be effective in my pursuit as a leader in any career I choose to pursue. I am sure many individuals have felt the way that I have so it is this common thread that will help me to succeed. I will talk to others about my personal experiences if I feel it will help them. One of my greatest experiences was meeting a man named Moe. He came at a time when I was having difficulty getting through what seemed to be my last attempt at math. As a result he is the one person that influenced my philosophy the most. He believed in me when I had no one else. He guided me and was the voice I needed to hear to keep moving forward. Moe had the ability to empower me to believe that I could do anything. When I have someone (that I would consider a leader) tell me that I can do something I believe them. He changed my world completely. From a girl who believed she couldn’t to a girl that believed she could. This experience helped me to see what a difference one person can really make. I want to be that person for many or even just one. I like to talk about paying it forward. I believe that it is important in today’s society to have people such as Moe surrounding us on becoming great leaders. It’s my turn to pay it forward. I want to be that coach that reminds us of what we already know; the kind of person that can relate to you because she is us. This is my passion; this is why I was put here. cc
“A leader is best, when people barely know that he exists.”
~Witter Bynner, The Way of Life According to Laotzu